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In This Issue:
Happy St. Patrick's Day
Links & Updates
Self Improvement Tips
Creative Date Idea
Dating Advice
You Make the Call From the Editor
I want to take a quick moment to wish you a happy St. Patrick's Day! We've uploaded a St. Patrick's Day dating cartoon to Online Dating Magazine that you can see here. We also have new cartoons and videos on the Online Dating Newsletter Website that you can access from the right hand sidebar of this newsletter. Thanks for your time and enjoy this issue. Cheers, Joe Tracy, editor
Online Dating Newsletter -- News & Update Links
Free Online Dating Services Gaining Momentum (WBZ) Online Dating: What's the Deal with the Stigma? (Examiner) Saint Patrick's Day Cartoon (Online Dating Magazine) Dr. Jim Answers Long Reader Question (Online Dating Magazine) -- Three Important Self Improvement Tips
(Online Dating Newsletter) People who take the time to improve their lives make much better dates and relationship partners. When you learn to master who you are and how to meet the needs of others you become a much more attractive person. Here are three self-improvement tips that will make you a better person to date. 1) Learn the art of listening.
Many dates are ruined when one person talks a lot more than the other. Work on improving your listening skills by asking more questions, asking followup questions, and showing a genuine interest in what others say. For more tips, read the article, "Listening: An Essential Part of Communication". 2) Learn self-discipline.
Self-discipline is the art of being able to overcome your fears through action. It is something that anyone can master if they put the time and dedication into it. You need to change your thinking to that of failure being a success. The difference between a self-disciplined person and one that's not is that a self-disciplined person will learn from their failures and move forward while someone without self-discipline will give up. When you look at successful people from the past, they all used failure to master success. Edison failed many times with the lightbulb, but kept moving forward till he got it right. Walt Disney was told that the idea of a theme park for families was a terrible idea, yet even with the obstacles that came with building Disneyland, he pushed forward. To master self-discipline, admit what you're afraid of: "I'm afraid of rejection" "I'm afraid of succeeding" (some people are), "I'm afraid something bad will happen". Once you admit you have these fears, you can move forward and tackle them one by one... read the rest of the article -- Creative Date Idea - Care Package for Needy
(Online Dating Newsletter) This is one of those "feel good" creative date ideas that will bring good karma your way and make another family feel appreciated. When a family is in need, most will turn to a church for help. For this creative date, you're going to be the help for the church (you don't need to be a Christian or believe in the church to do this creative date). Here's what to do: 1) Sit down with your date and create a list of items you will need to buy to put together a "care packages" for needy families. Aim to create somewhere between 2-6 care packages. Things you'll want to buy are nice bags or boxes (to present the care package in), some healthy non-perishable food, some books (positive ones), gift cards, and for a couple of the care packages, some toys. You'll be able to think of a lot more additional ideas. 2) Purchase cards for each care package. The cards could be uplifting or could be blank on the inside. On each card you'll put a simple message like "Hope this helps" then sign your first name and have your date sign his/her first name. The key is to personalize the gift/message even though you'll remain anonymous. It's optional if you want to put some money in the card. 3) Put together the care packages... Read the rest of the article here. -- Dating Advice - Free or Paid Online Dating Service?
Dear Dating Advice,
Is it better to use free online dating services or paid online dating services? There are pros and cons to both. For example: The pros to free online dating services are: 1) They're free and don't cost you anything. 2) Lots of people are using popular free online dating services. 3) They often have blogs and active forums/chatrooms presenting new ways to get to know people while expressing yourself. 4) Since everyone is a member with full benefits you don't have to wonder if your email got to someone. On a paid online dating service, your email may not get to someone if they are not a paying member to. The pros to paid online dating services are: 1) They tend to attract people who are more serious about dating and getting into a relationship. 2) There are fewer scammers. 3) There are fewer ads. 4) There is a slightly stronger security measure because paid online dating services have credit card and personal information on file of the person you are dating. Look at the pros of both and decide which is better for you. You may want to sign up for a free online dating service and paid online dating service and see which works better. -- You Make the Call
Below is this week's new "You Make the Call" question.. Remember, the best answer given by a reader will get $5 either via PayPal or an Amazon.com gift certificate. So be sure to answer this week's question! "After a few communications with someone via online dating, they invite you out on a date saying that they will pay will for it. You arrive for the dinner date and throughout the meal can tell that there is no chemistry at all. When the bill comes, your date apologizes and says that they accidently forgot their money and asks you to pay. What do you do?" (reply to this email with your answer or post it in the Comments section of the post) | Last Week's Best Answer
Last week's question was: "You've really clicked with someone you met on an online dating service. The chemistry and attraction is definitely there and you share a lot of things in common. The relationship is starting to get a lot more serious. On your fifth date, your date says he/she has something to tell you. You can tell they are struggling to get the words out. Finally, the date tells you that they have a sexually transmitted disease - genital herpes. You are STD free. What do you do?" Several people weighed in with their opinion and were quite honest in their responses. Ashley says that would be a turnoff and the person would fall into the "just friends" category. Jason would suggest they look for love on an STD online dating site. The best answer this week came from Lyndsi who this did happen to. Lyndsi shares her personal experience as follows: "I had this happen to me and this is my opinion. You always have to put yourself in the other person's shoes. I knew immediately when he started to share this with me, that whatever it was he had to share was extremely difficult for him. It was so hard for him that by the time it finally came out of his mouth I was relieved. I had everything going through my head before he got to it (jail, convict). The strength that it takes for a person and respect to share this with you before the relationship goes any further speaks volumes of their character. There are plenty of people out there that do not and keep passing it right along. That is a person with no respect or character. With all that being said you treat the person with compassion, respect and appreciation. If it really scares you and you want nothing to do it with it, you can try to maintain a friendship if possible and you remain honest with them like they did for you. If the feelings and chemistry is already there and you are unsure of what to do, you schedule an appt with your Dr and you go get educated on the subject. This was what I did. After you educate yourself you make the decision that works best for you and them. If you enter into a sexual relationship there are plenty methods of protection that work. I was with this person for a long time and never did get it, we are no longer together but he is one of my dearest friends to this day!" Submit your best answer to this week's question and you can win $5 payable via PayPal. Lyndsi won $5 this week and you can win it next week if your answer is chosen by Online Dating Newsletter as the "best answer". | -- Stay tuned for a new newsletter on next Tuesday and thank you for being a subscriber! Remember, you can get $5 if you have the best answer for today's You Make the Call segment. | 
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